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Thursday, May 18, 2006

A natural affinity


Theorists generally conceptualize friendship as a voluntary relationship between equals. This definition of friendship is an abstract conceptualization rather than a description of reality.

Friendships are built in the margins of life. I would even say that people do not fall out of love, they fall out of friendship. Our lives have gotten so busy that we can easily eat up all the margins of free time in our lives and fall out of friendship. And FYI to a bloggist “Orikinla Osinachi”, a holy Bible believer, who found Jesus:) and love and promises to show it to my very sadenned old friend, may remember these words from his favorite Bible, “Woe to those who add house to house and join field to field, until there is no more room, so that you have to live alone in the midst of the land! In my ears the Lord of hosts has sworn, ‘Surely, many houses shall become desolate…”

Looking back at the story of creation, “And God said, ‘Let there be light,” and there was light. God saw that the light was good and he separated the light from the darkness. God called the light ‘day,’ and the darkness he called ‘night.’ And there was evening, and there was morning – the first day” If you notice God started creation from rest and he brought life forward out of rest, not activity. This is an important point to understand for our lives: the secret of fruitfulness is not adding, but actually pruning.

In reality, we each have a powerful natural inner drive to satisfy a ravenous natural hunger for intimacy of mind with other human beings. This greatly desired intimacy of mind is what we call friendship. But sadly, in this present austere world ruled by its divisive spirit of greed and competition, it is not possible to achieve this intimacy of mind to any worth-while depth with just anybody. The minds of potential friends must from the outset already possess a mutually sympathetic resonance - an inter-personal affinity.

Is a friend really a friend if they punish your for not having the kind of personality they want you to have of them? I, of course, say that such an action is indicative of an absurd person. And if you did the same thing to them, that would make you an asshole -- further proof that we live in a double standard dystopia

Are the rules of friendship written in law, or are they just traditions that have generally been around for centuries? If the later is the case --and I think it is -- then that means I have the right to define friendship by my own terms. And the same sort of thing applies to everybody else. Therefore, whether I'm a good friend or not is completely dependent on context. Unfortunately, my conclusions here very likely will be ignored, and my view of frinedship -- according to many people -- will be defined as sign of my defective personality. And that's why I say Friendship is stupider than ever!

12 Comments:

  • *And that's why I say Friendship is stupider than ever!

    nothing lasts forever, thats for sure.
    so later you'll always have the right to make a new conclusion (again).
    just be conscious why.

    By Blogger Die Muräne, At 2:51 AM  

  • well said, murane

    By Blogger Stud, At 9:53 AM  

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    Don't Take It Personal (Just One Of Dem Days) Lyrics



    It's just one of them days, when I wanna be all alone
    It's just one of them days, when I gotta be all alone
    It's just one of them days, don't take it personal
    I just wanna be all alone, and you think I treat you wrong

    I wanna take some time out to think things through
    I know it always feels like I'm doing you wrong
    but I'm so in love with you
    So understand that I'm only in love your the only one I need
    So have no thought that I want to leave and baby trust me please

    [1:] Just one of them days
    That a girl goes through
    When I'm angry inside
    Don't want to take it out on you
    Just one of them days
    Don't take it personal
    I just wanna be all alone
    And you think I treat you wrong

    Don't take it personal
    Baby baby baby baby, don't take it personal

    I see and I think about every thing we do
    And I find myself in misery and that ain't cool
    Hey now, I really want to be with you the whole way through
    But the way you make me feel inside keeps me confused
    As I swing back from mood to mood it's not because of you
    I never want you to be insecure,
    so won't you understand that I'm only in love, your the only one I need
    I'll be there for you when you need me boy, so baby don't you leave

    [Repeat 1]

    [Repeat 1]

    Don't take it personal
    Baby baby baby baby, don't take it personal
    Don't take it personal, yeah , don't take it personal

    [Repeat 1]

    Don't take it personal baby
    Personal baby, personal baby, personal baby
    personal baby, personal baby
    .......................

    Keshi loves you and "slimy mud" does not paint you black.
    You response even confirms the slimy mud. Because, you want to rubbish me. And where is your sense of humour?

    Don't be too sensitive.
    Don't hang your heart around your neck.
    Yesterday is gone forever.
    Nkiruka!
    The future is greater.

    God bless you.

    By Blogger EKENYERENGOZI Michael Chima, At 12:30 PM  

  • People are always changing , you zig they zag . Soon your at different directions . It's not that friendship doesn't work it changes . If you don't hang on to the person you'll lose them , that's all . You go one way they go another .

    I Guarantee you , you will meet up with them again at another crossroad .

    By Blogger wallycrawler, At 1:00 PM  

  • orikina osama hachi: are you a spammer or what? (don't take it personal, just one of dem days, lol)

    wallycrawler: you're so profound! lol

    By Blogger Die Muräne, At 3:08 PM  

  • lol murane

    By Blogger Stud, At 6:19 PM  

  • *And that's why I say Friendship is stupider than ever!

    Well, I am one of the stupid people that think friendship with certain special people is worth it.

    I have been betrayed by a lot of my frens before and even now. I have cried so many times that I do not even remember and thinking of letting go and hating friendship but some of my other frens were there to support me, help me and love me.

    BTW, nothing lasts forever... so.. why be so serious and watse ur energy to think that friendship is stupid.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, At 8:21 PM  

  • My friends are what have sustained me through the hard times. Some have fallen by the wayside over time, and the ones that are left are truly golden.

    By Blogger Unknown, At 3:27 PM  

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    By Blogger dimwitnot, At 4:08 PM  

  • blue3: "friendship is stupid" and "nothing lasts forever" are two complete different statements. I never would say friendship is stupid cause for me its one of the most important things in life. I know most of my best friends since school or even childrengarden. A damn long time!

    But nothing lasts forever is something different. Life will show you, no worries.

    By Blogger Die Muräne, At 1:21 PM  

  • By definition;
    A friend is one who freely supports out of good will, shows interest, is amiable, kind,and causes feelings of well being.

    That being said there certainly is an END in the word FRIEND!

    By Blogger Romeo Morningwood, At 10:43 AM  

  • u r either a friend or u r not
    we dont beed definitions do we?

    By Blogger Jim, At 4:42 PM  

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